SOUTH SURREY â€” Some people reach for a bottle, but George Passmore is trying to quit reaching for a mug of coffee for a week.
Passmore currently works as a manager with counselling and addiction at the Sources Community Resource Centre in White Rock. As part of the City of Surreyâ€™s Substance Use Awareness Week, he suggested a new habit-kicking challenge.
The week runs May 25-31 and residents can participate in the â€œHabit Change Challengeâ€ by switching out a habit that negatively impacts their health, finances or time to put into perspective, on a small-scale, what itâ€™s like for addicts to quit their vices.
Passmore chose caffeine.
Up until the birth of his second child, Passmore had never touched a cup. But he admits with an embarrassed laugh he would verge on sleep during meetings with his clients after being kept up at night by a baby and waking up early to care for a toddler.
â€œDuring meetings I would think, â€˜Iâ€™m interested, Iâ€™m engaged but my eyes are going to close soonâ€™ what am I supposed to do?â€ laughs Passmore.
Now, Passmore says that he usually drinks only two cups a day but â€œfeels a little desperateâ€ if he knows he has to start a morning without it.
To help people stick with the challenge, Passmore recommends being more aware of your relationship with the habit youâ€™re trying to kick.
â€œFor me,â€ Passmore says, â€œI understand [that], at first, [coffee] was just for alertness and then it became a ritual and now itâ€™s an, â€˜I need a double double every morningâ€™ thing.â€
He adds, â€œI think that the biggest threat to success is falling into autopilot. We get pulled into that automatic mode and you need to be mindful and have that gentle ongoing awareness of what your mind is up to, noticing your cravings and being aware of them.â€
To do just that, Passmore will be set up a blog to document his habit-kicking journey.
Looking ahead, he foresees a lot of headaches and withdrawal symptoms coming his way, but that the purpose behind the challenge â€” to raise awareness on substance use and reduce stigma for those going through it â€” is worth it.
â€œThis is a community where the judgment and the stigma around addiction still lives,â€ Passmore says, his voice slow and careful. â€œSomehow, people tend to apply a moral model to it and fail to see the human aspect.â€
His brow furrows and he counts off his fingers, listing frequent statements he hears about those dealing with substance use problems including lack of willpower, good values or intelligence.
Passmore hopes that participation in the challenge will help people to see the difficulty in changing habits â€” even simple ones.
â€œThe hope is that theyâ€™ll have that humble awareness of the difficulty of changing any well-worn path in our lives. Then it becomes harder to say why donâ€™t â€˜thoseâ€™ people just stop using?â€ says Passmore.
Working as a counsellor, Passmore says that, since a young age, he has always felt very attuned and sympathetic to the feelings of others.
â€œI want the world to be a slightly better place because Iâ€™m in it,â€ he says simply, without a hint of ego.
For the past decade, Passmore has been a counsellor on relationship issues, trauma recovery, stress-reduction, anger management and has also worked with male survivors of sexual abuse.
At Sources, he seriously considers the centreâ€™s tagline â€œsocial wellness for our communityâ€ and takes a pro-active approach to his counselling duties.
â€œI donâ€™t believe we should sit in an office and wait for people who are in trouble to come forward to us,â€ says Passmore. â€œWe need to go out and really bring as much of what we have to offer to the community.â€
Sources put on a kick-off event at Earl Marriott Secondary School on May 23.
For more information and tips on the Habit Change Challenge, visit www.surrey.ca/habitchange